For age long, Sugar Daddyism has been a trend and no-one seems to be able to trace how it started, but the closest to what we can call the evolution of the name “Sugar Daddy” is the story of Adolph Spreckel, heir to the Spreckels sugar fortune, married a woman who was 24 years younger than him and called him “Sugar Daddy”.
From every search engine to discussions, all people knew is that some older men (and women – Sugar Mummies) find pleasure in ladies and gents way younger than they are and has now become a trend in the society so much that young women most especially find it difficult do well for themselves without alleged to be in a relationship with a Sugar Daddy. Across the world, it is quite a popular phenomenon, though with different names and slight variations in respect to the various locations and societies. In Nigeria, it has upgraded from this generic name to become Sugar Daddy.
A search on Google said the first use of the term Sugar Daddy didn’t appear until the early 1900s. According to the search, Adolph Spiracles, a Californian businessman who ran Spreckels Sugar Company and heir to the Sugar fortune of his father, who was affectionately referred to as a Sugar Daddy by his wife Alma who was 24 years younger than him. Wala!, this seems to clarify the idea of why the sugar babies are almost twice the ages of their Sugar Daddies – fresh, young and full of adventures while the Daddies are old, well-to-do and fresh-blood seeking. The former prefer younger, attractive women because they are more fertile and the latter prefer older, successful men because they can provide.
Another quick search availed a range of webpages and articles and the one that caught the attention of this reader the most are ‘What Do Sugar Daddies Want?’ “Instead, Sugar Daddies are looking for a great partner to enjoy the best of life with them, transparently and splendidly. Since they are incredibly successful in their careers, Daddies enjoy sharing their wealth, knowledge, experiences, and magical moments with their Sugar Babies, a click on the arrow-down web item revealed. Again, this explains the whole concept and ideology behind the Sugar Daddy act – one old and experienced man needs a fresh and young blood, who is broke and cannot live the life she wants. This brings us to the painful point of this writer.
Sex for roles in the movie industry, sex for grades in Education, sex for favor, promotion and contracts in places of work and governance, and in the many other forms that they manifest are all subordinates of the Sugar Daddy concept, just that the end product of these mentioned ones is the overrated minutes of pleasure – sex – and not necessarily a relationship. This concept has so eaten deep in the society that people who have no intention whatsoever to engage in the the act find it difficult to live lives and do things they are supposed to do. Some of these Daddies will stop at nothing to unnecessarily frustrate the efforts of the young ladies if they do not succumb to their biddings. Life doesn’t come easy, true, but these other unnatural pressure and hinderances make things more unbearable. In the society today, good morals and living the life of hardworking and patience do not bring the good success anymore, it is the life of connection and how much of your body can give to achieve your goals. This has not only taken away the integrity of the society at large, but keeps the society decayed and rotten, and only God knows what next it will become.
Many children are shamed by their parents (mothers inclusive) running after younger ones their age, and would not feel comfortable no matter how much they try. Yes, the parents have their lives to live but doesn’t stop this act from being shameful. Low key, this act has affected the mental health of many young people, who do not engage in it. They look down on their efforts and need motivation that they are doing well enough to get past each day. The unsaid peer pressure, low self-esteem and feelings of non-belonging have slid many into depression and sometimes, suicide.